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50 Reasons People Don't Leave Their Abusive Lovers
Shouldn't any person with an abusive lover leave them right away? This list brings up some of the reasons why it is often not that simple. Whether or not someone can or can't, should or shouldn't leave is a totally individual matter. Someone who is abused may be considering:
The children
Money
Fear
Relatives blame me
Therapist blames me
Police blame me
Clergy blame me
My batterer blames me
I blame myself
No one believes I'm being abused
I'm not sure I'm being abused
My partner says "I love you"
My partner says "I'm sorry"
My partner says "I'm the best thing that's ever happened to you"
My partner says "I'll never do it again"
My partner says "I'll kill you if you leave"
My partner says "I'll kill myself if you leave"
My partner says "I'll take the children"
My partner says "I'll hurt the children"
I'll be homeless
The shelters are full
I believe the welfare system will abuse me worse
I love my partner
My partner loves me
The children love us both
My father abused me
My mother abused me
My partner is an alcoholic
My partner is addicted to drugs
I'm an alcoholic
I'm addicted to drugs
My partner's a pimp
I've tried to leave before
My partner found me before
I can't speak English
I don't have the papers to be in this country
I'm in a wheelchair
I'm deaf
I'm blind
I have a developmental disability
My partner is my personal care attendant
My partner is a public figure
I am a public figure
I can't read
I am afraid I would have to leave school
I'm afraid of the unknown
I'm isolated
I'm depressed
My partner threatens to expose me as a lesbian or as a gay man
I've never told anyone
It's not the right time, yet.
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This page last revised
Thu Jul 13 18:27:26 EDT 2000
by leaf. Changed it to the first person
to make it gender-inclusive; abuse happens to both males and females.
(I didn't write this... if you know who did, let me know.)